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Janna
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United States
"Pick me is someone who's seeking attention or approval from someone else, usually from the opposite sex. They would, I don't know, degrade themselves. It's not really simp because they do it literally with anyone, with everyone, not just a particular person or a crush. They try to act like they're interested in, you know, the other sex's things, you know, just to, pick me. They want someone to pick them, just to pick me. They're seeking attention, approval or whatnot. An example would be, oh my god, did you see the way she was fishing for compliments, saying she's so ugly and that no one's ever called her pretty? She was literally fishing for everyone to tell her she looks pretty when she knows she looks pretty. She's such a pick me."
What it means
A pick-me is someone, usually a woman, who performs for male approval by going out of her way to seem unlike other women, easier, cooler, less drama, more worth choosing. It’s that whole look at me, I’m not like them routine, often with a bit of throwing other women under the bus for extra sparkle.
Usage examples
"She kept saying she hates drama and other girls are exhausting, total pick-me energy."
"Putting down your own mates to impress a bloke is peak pick-me behaviour."
"She was proper doing the pick-me thing, banging on about how she only gets on with guys because girls are too much."
"Not her calling every woman in the office fake just so the lads think she’s chill. That’s pure pick-me."
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Where it comes from
It comes from the plain idea of shouting pick me when you want to be chosen. Online, especially through social media in the 2010s, it shifted into a drag for someone performing for romantic or social approval, usually by acting extra low-maintenance and distancing themselves from their own group to seem more selectable.
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