What it means
It means getting way more upset, offended, or worked up than the situation really calls for. If someone gets bent out of shape, they've let a small thing twist their mood all wonky and tense. People usually say it to tell someone to relax a bit and stop making a massive drama out of nothing.
Usage examples
"Mate, it was just a joke about your haircut. Don’t get bent out of shape, yeah? Grab a pint and let it slide."
"Do not get bent out of shape about the seating plan at the wedding, mate, the table by the kitchen door is right next to the dessert trolley, and that is genuinely the prime position of the entire room."
"My sister got completely bent out of shape over the missing baby photo from the family album, until we realised the album for nineteen ninety-three was simply in the wrong cardboard box up in the loft."
"She got bent out of shape because I left her on read for ten minutes. Ten minutes, not ten years."
"Don't get bent out of shape over one bad comment online. Some people just wake up weird and start typing."
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Where it comes from
This is established American English from around the mid 20th century. It grows out of the literal image of something bent out of its proper form. Earlier uses could point to being drunk or mentally off, then the phrase settled into the everyday sense of getting overly upset, touchy, or rattled.
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